Adoption can be a very stressful process. Often adoptive parents feel the need to be perfect and fear their every move is being looked at under a microscope. A home study is part of the adoption procedure that many prospective adoptees face with apprehension and anxiety. While it can be a bit disconcerting to have your home, habits and lifestyle examined by a stranger, with careful planning you can be prepared to face it head on.
- Keep organized – Create careful paperwork and consider making a binder to help you keep track of all the documents needed for the study. Create a checklist and mark off the materials as they are gathered.
- Ask for help – Don’t overburden yourself. Ask family and friends to help you complete tasks. Create expectations for when each is to be completed and follow-up as necessary.
- Set a tone – Be creative with your autobiography. Share favorite memories, tell personal stories and give unique and interesting details about your family that will give your home study coordinator a better view of what your family is all about.
- Double check everything – Be meticulous in every area of your study. Ask friends to proofread things, make copies and keep very accurate records of everything.
- Give yourself a break – Don’t overburden yourself with all the details. Take time to step away and spend time alone with your spouse. Remember this process is about adding to your family in a positive way. Take time to enhance your relationship.
- Learn – Find resources that will teach you more about the adoption process. Read stories of individuals who have gone through it and learn from their highs and lows.
- Tell the truth – Be honest about your past. The truth will be revealed eventually. Being up-front is the best policy to ensure open and honest communication.
- Relax – Stay calm and be yourself during the home visit. The best thing you can do is show the home visit coordinator exactly who you are. They don’t expect you to be perfect – No parent ever is!
Adoption is an amazing process in which loving parents meet the child that was meant to be a part of their family at ABC for Adoption, we are honored to play a small part in that process.