Many adoptive parents feel daunted by the task of writing a letter of introduction to an expectant mother. It helps to see writing the letter as a wonderful opportunity to talk about your family’s interests, hobbies, and hopes. Keeping your letter brief but sincere and meaningful can make a big impact on an expectant mother’s comfort level, ability to see her child’s future in your family, and desire to know you better.
Don’t worry about racking your brain to come up with “the perfect” letter according to a set formula. The best letter is one that sincerely reflects your thoughts and feelings about growing your family, your lifestyle, and your family’s personality.
Many expectant parents considering adoption read tens, if not hundreds, of introduction letters. Think about what makes you and your family special, and why she or he would choose to find out more about yours. How do you see a new baby or child in your lives? What activities, traditions, and other experiences will you share?
Keeping your letter short and to the point helps make sure that every word counts, so that your character and intentions powerfully shine through. Expectant parents cannot always read every long letter all the way to the end, so a handful of paragraphs is best. Take out details that an expectant parent has no need or interest in knowing, and retain the most important ones. Be honest and let the reader know your thoughts regarding open adoptions and any special situations, such as those involving older children or children with special needs.
Pick a Photo that Fits
A photo should integrate with the spirit of your introduction letter, and both should blend seamlessly into the rest of your adoption profile to create a well-rounded picture of your family. Choose a photo that reflects the love and type of life you will give to an adopted child, as well as your interests and relationship, if possible. A good-quality, clear photo that reflects warmth and joy, and accurately illustrates what you have written should be the best match for your letter.
Since 2003, ABC for Adoption has been matching birthmothers with loving, licensed couples to adopt their babies in the greater Chicagoland area of Illinois. To learn more about how we can help you through the adoption process, visit our website at www.abcforadoption.com or call 1-888-44ADOPT (888-442-3678).