Handling Postpartum Emotions after Placing a Baby for Adoption
Placing a child up for adoption is a difficult decision for biological parents and one that requires a lot of thought, especially on the part of the birth mother. When choosing to give your child up for adoption, you will likely still think of that child every day for the rest of your life, even if you never see them again after the delivery. Still, adoption is often the best choice for the biological parents and the child, while giving the adoptive parents a precious and wonderful gift.
If you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant and are unsure whether adoption is the right choice for your situation, there are many factors to consider. First, it’s important to understand the long-term issues that affect birth mothers after the adoption is complete. Even when you are absolutely certain you made the right choice in putting your baby up for adoption, you will still experience feelings of grief, perhaps for years to come. It’s important to know that even when the initial grieving period has ended, grief may strongly rear its head during “anniversary” periods like your child’s birthday.
The grief a birth mother experiences is complex in that it is not often openly acknowledged. A woman who has placed a child for adoption may not know another person who has experienced such a loss, and may not be comfortable talking about it with family or friends for lack of understanding on their end. It is so important for biological parents to have empathy, comfort, and support. At ABC For Adoption, we are proud to offer emotional support via comprehensive counseling to birth parents. Our dedicated and well-trained staff explores the issues of grief, guilt, and anguish that often accompany the giving up of a child for adoption. We assist in helping to understand that adoption is a commitment made very seriously and not lightly. We help biological parents understand the ramifications of giving up a child for adoption; the impact on the life of the biological parent as well as that of the rest of the family members.
To learn more about how we can help you through the adoption process, visit our website or call the toll free number 1-888-44ADOPT (888-442-3678). We are easy to talk to, we listen, and we answer and explain all questions you might have confidentially and honestly.